Self Compassion

Today I was in Target and I overheard two young women in the dressing room. They were showing each other the outfits they were trying on and one of the women kept going on and on about how cute her friend looked but how horrible she looked.

We all do this. Well, at least, I think we all do this ;) especially women. We can easily see the best in our friends but we are so quick to zone in on all the things we don't like about ourselves.

Perfection.

It's an impossible dream to chase.

Nobody is perfect. Even the people we love. When they fall down, you pick them back up. When you see a friend struggling, you speak words of love and compassion.  You need to give yourself the same permission to be imperfect...just like every other human being on earth.

It's hard to keep a balanced and open mind when thinking about yourself. You need to be able to think kind, encouraging thoughts about yourself when things are great but, also, especially when they aren't. Successes and failures all have something to teach us. Instead of beating ourselves up or having negative self talk, we need to reframe our thoughts. Think to yourself, "Would I say this to my best friend? Would I speak these hurtful words to someone I love?" I am pretty sure the answer will be a resounding NO.  So, stop doing it! Be a friend to yourself.

I have a sweatshirt that says Be Present. I love it because it reminds me to try and focus where I am on my journey. We've all heard that saying, Life is a journey, not a destination. Often times we get too caught up in how we wish things were, the what ifs, instead of appreciating how things really are.

Love yourself now. That's the beautiful part. Enjoying our lives, loving ourselves and accepting exactly how we are at the present moment.

Be kind and compassionate to yourself. Surround yourself with loving thoughts. You are just as worthy as everyone else.

It's time you started seeing yourself through eyes of love <3